Wifey Material and its qualities

Wifey Material: is a phase that is used to describe the qualities of a woman that would be an absolute great wife. The specific traits vary among men. But there are a few that all men seem to agree upon.

Men all seem to agree upon these qualities of wifey material.

trust, honesty, has to love him for him, smoking body, great with kids, gets along with his friends, likes to travel,  knows how to handle life.  be able to put up with them, great personality,  and can cook just like his mother.

Good qualities-

For quite some time I thought, I was the perfect wife material because I held most of the qualities. I was a responsible person, good head on my shoulders, a good job, good mother, I cooked, cleaned, I was supportive, and always there. I would say I was a good catch but Have I achieved that wifey level ?

I was that person-

Who was I as a person, besides having all the good qualities or at least I thought. I was hot headed, inpatient, I didn’t know how to listen or better yet communicate the right way. . In order for you to communicate you have to comprehend everything the person is saying. I had a lot of open wounds that needed to be healed, lessons that I still needed to learn. I was fighting my own battles within. I had to know myself first. In order for me to grow and become someone’s wife. I had a lot of problems that needed to be solved first. I had this wall built up so secure and tight that there was no knocking that down. I had to fix myself first before I can be a wife to anyone. I didn’t even know how to choose the right man to even be a wife to.

Fixing myself-

It took quite some time to fix myself, and in no way shape or form was I in a rush because change takes time. Once I did fix myself, I didn’t recognize the old me. I was totally a different person, It wasn’t until then that I realized, I haven’t been ready up until now. In order to be wifey material you have to be a WOMAN first, love yourself first or you cannot love someone else the right way. there will always be a void there. I had to fix my bad attitude, my trust issues, my parent issues, being mean for no reason. Being ignorant at times. I had to fix the person I was, and I had to fight the battles that I held in for so long. A lot of ladies think just because we look good, we cook, clean, maintain a household, and a good mother. That makes us wifey material but it’s so much more to it than that.

Where I am today-

The person I was Before, I would try to pull old tricks out the bag to prove to these men that I’m wifey material. Now when I cross paths with men, I’m recognized immediately I don’t have to say or do anything not saying that to boost my ego. But, men see and act accordingly You have to know who you are as a person before you can be wife material to someone else. And, It wasn’t that I didn’t know how to be a wife. I just needed to learn how to be a WOMAN first, big difference.


Marriage is a partnership and requires two people to make it work through thick and thin it’s never one sided. Its true when they say you cant choose who you like, but you can choose who you love.

10 Comments to “Wifey Material and its qualities”

  1. this is a great post and it sounds like it came from your heat keep p the great post

  2. Tara says:

    Oh my goodness. I can really relate to this article. I wish I would have waited to get married because I would have known myself better. The person I married and I are no longer together and really looking back, I can see how the combination was all wrong. I was 26 and didn’t have enough life experiences. I didn’t know how to communicate well either and I really ended up struggling with conflict. We ended up in counselling and while it didn’t save our marriage I learned so much about myself there. I think our perception about how a relationship should be also shapes our behavior. Great post!

    1. Kristina says:

      Thank you ! We have a very similar story I was around the same age also when I got married as well but you know we live and learn !

  3. Tom says:

    Hey Kristina,

    Great article. Thank you for being so open about your marriage, and giving us so much good advice.

    I have not been married before but my brother is married. I have forwarded this onto him just to give him some inspiration as they are going through a little bad patch.

    I will let you know his thoughts.

    Thanks for sharing and being so open.

    All the best,


    1. Kristina says:

      Thank you so much Tom ! I hope he finds it helpful

  4. MarieRoseD1 says:

    After 20 years of marriage, I have realized some truths of my own. Primarily, it’s a Russian roulette because you only have one shot at this thing to make it work and you can only fix your end. We can’t fix the man, we can’t force him to reciprocate –it’s about giving unconditionally, with no strings attached, the ability to give is a reward in itself. So here goes –I say amen to:- women discover yourself, then accept yourself, then love yourself. Ask yourself what am I hoping to get out of this? If you have a list, you are in trouble because nothing is guaranteed. So do good by you and think carefully before I DO. Psst –I would love your feedback on my content —should be familiar grounds –https://ieltsmarie.com/i-can-read-books-at-level-1/. Thanks in advance

  5. Jean says:

    Wow! What an interesting article. It’s so true that you need to be happy in your own skin before you can be happy with someone else. There’s no point in looking for someone to complete you – you are complete already just as you are! I say enjoy your life, and if someone fabulous wants to join you on your journey that’s great! Just as long as they can accept you and don’t expect you to be wonder woman. We are all just imperfect human beings at the end of the day. (I would be interested to know what you idea of ‘hubby material is!)

    1. Kristina says:

      Thank you so much Jean, you are absolutely right about that. I will be sure to write about hubby material 😉

  6. Kristina says:

    You are absolutely right about that it’s definitely a Russian roulette that’s why we need to know ourselves first before we give ourselves to anyone . I will be sure to check out your site, thank you !

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