Wifey Material: is a phase that is used to describe the qualities of a woman that would be an absolute great wife. The specific traits vary among men. But there are a few that all men seem to agree upon.
Men all seem to agree upon these qualities of wifey material.
trust, honesty, has to love him for him, smoking body, great with kids, gets along with his friends, likes to travel, knows how to handle life. be able to put up with them, great personality, and can cook just like his mother.
For quite some time I thought, I was the perfect wife material because I held most of the qualities. I was a responsible person, good head on my shoulders, a good job, good mother, I cooked, cleaned, I was supportive, and always there. I would say I was a good catch but Have I achieved that wifey level ?
I was that person-
Who was I as a person, besides having all the good qualities or at least I thought. I was hot headed, inpatient, I didn’t know how to listen or better yet communicate the right way. . In order for you to communicate you have to comprehend everything the person is saying. I had a lot of open wounds that needed to be healed, lessons that I still needed to learn. I was fighting my own battles within. I had to know myself first. In order for me to grow and become someone’s wife. I had a lot of problems that needed to be solved first. I had this wall built up so secure and tight that there was no knocking that down. I had to fix myself first before I can be a wife to anyone. I didn’t even know how to choose the right man to even be a wife to.
It took quite some time to fix myself, and in no way shape or form was I in a rush because change takes time. Once I did fix myself, I didn’t recognize the old me. I was totally a different person, It wasn’t until then that I realized, I haven’t been ready up until now. In order to be wifey material you have to be a WOMAN first, love yourself first or you cannot love someone else the right way. there will always be a void there. I had to fix my bad attitude, my trust issues, my parent issues, being mean for no reason. Being ignorant at times. I had to fix the person I was, and I had to fight the battles that I held in for so long. A lot of ladies think just because we look good, we cook, clean, maintain a household, and a good mother. That makes us wifey material but it’s so much more to it than that.
Where I am today-
The person I was Before, I would try to pull old tricks out the bag to prove to these men that I’m wifey material. Now when I cross paths with men, I’m recognized immediately I don’t have to say or do anything not saying that to boost my ego. But, men see and act accordingly You have to know who you are as a person before you can be wife material to someone else. And, It wasn’t that I didn’t know how to be a wife. I just needed to learn how to be a WOMAN first, big difference.
Marriage is a partnership and requires two people to make it work through thick and thin it’s never one sided. Its true when they say you cant choose who you like, but you can choose who you love.