Wellness checks on friends and families
Wellness checks, what are they and how do they affect us
How often do you check in on family and friends ? Do you go days, weeks, or even months, without speaking to someone that is close to you? If you answered yes to any of them, then today is the day you need to reconsider .
What are wellness checks-
Wellness checks are check ups or check ins, you can simply send a text, phone call, or drop in for a personal visit. I believe wellness checks are very important to check on your close ones you honestly never know what the next one is going through. Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. I do not judge others but simply try to be there for one another and show support and let them know that they are not alone. Sometimes it only takes two seconds to show someone that you really care for them.
My kids are 12, 9, 7, and 5 years of age and yes, I do still check on them in the middle of the night to see if they are still breathing and are ok. It’s a routine that I started when they were born, and probably will continue to do so, until they are grown and out of my home. It just gives me that clarity.
Life is short-
Life is too short and tomorrow is not promised so check on your loved ones while they are here, show them that you care and that you are there for them. I work a full time job with senior citizens even though it is independent care and some of them are still working, and driving. Majority of them have no family. No one checks in on them, calls them, or visits them, to say the least so when I am there working, I try my very best to engage with most of them, and ask them how there feeling, what’s on there mind, and the news. You know small talk, and to them that means a lot. A little can go a long way.
February 6, 2020,-
Thursday, February 6, 2020, was a normal day, I got up at 4 to be to work by 5 am. I’m at work having a great morning so far. Now, At 8:00 a.m. One of my residents daughter called the office concerned saying she haven’t heard from her mother since Wednesday morning and that she is getting worried because she haven’t returned any of her calls. I assured her I will check in and see what’s going on. Now as I hang up the phone I shake off this feeling that I have and continue to take the elevator up to the first floor. I’m knocking on this woman’s door and calling her name but she isn’t answering at all. I take the master key out and unlock her apartment door now when I go in she had a few items scattered around the floor which is not like her because she has always been a tidy woman. As I’m calling her name I don’t hear a sound, nor do I see her cat. So I continue to search her unit and notice her bedroom door is shut. I knock and proceed to call her name, but still I get no response. I open up her bedroom door and I find this lady lying on the floor. Her fingers were so blue, a dark blue. I immediately called 911 as I’m checking for a pulse. I did not find a pulse at all. I was heartbroken, I already knew what the EMT’S were going to tell me when they looked at me with low sad eyes. They confirmed, She passed away. I was hurt. Just the day before I was speaking to this woman and telling her she looked great, and just having small talk. Then the next day, I come to work and I’m the one that finds her dead.
It makes you appreciate the little things in life, to appreciate life itself and live everyday like it’s your last. Tell others that you love them. You just never know when it’s going to be the last . I always tell people Give me flowers while I can still smell them not when I’m dead and gone.
Pick up the phone even if it is a text, or make a visit. Let them know your checking in and thinking of them. Change starts with you, it’s called wellness check !