Managing a household as a single mom

Managing a household can be tuff at times but managing a household as a single mom with four kids can be a bit overwhelming.


Managing the household –

Being a single parent can be a challenging but rewarding experience. You have sole responsibility for all aspects of day to day childcare. Not to mention added pressure. Stress and fatigue.woohoo !

To reduce stress in your household-

  • Show love– set aside time each day to play, read or simply sit with your child, it makes a huge difference.
  • Create a routine– have a schedule regularly scheduled meals, homework and bedtime. Lets your child know what to expect on a day to day basis
  • Set limits– explain house rules to your child and explain the consequences such as time out, grounding, etc.
  • Take care of yourself– in order for you to take good care of your children, you have to be healthy and eat healthy. Get plenty of sleep. Take a time out to do activities that you love with friends or alone.
  • Don’t feel guilty– don’t blame yourself for being a single parent, your not the only one and won’t be the last.
  • Stay positive – it’s ok to be honest with your child if you’re having an “off” day but also remind them that things will get better.
  • Lending hand– it’s ok to ask for help and lean on others. Work out a car pool schedule with friends and family. Join a single moms group.
  • Child care– if you need regular child care look for a licensed qualified caregiver, who can provide care in a safe environment. Be Always careful about asking new friends or a partner to watch your child .

Separation /Divorce –

Many single parent homes are the result of divorce ( this is my case ) or separation. Always talk to your child about the changes that you are facing, listen to your child’s concerns and feelings, and be open with your child answer any questions they may have on an age appropriate level, to make them understand. Even though mommy and daddy aren’t together doesn’t mean we love you any less. Co-parenting plays a major part always communicate with your child’s other parent about your child’s well-being or any changes they might have to help your kids adapt better.

Single Mom & Dating-

If you are dating always consider the impact your partner will have on your child/ren. Always look for a partner that will treat you and your children with the same respect. Wait until you established a solid relationship with someone before introducing him or her to your child. Everyone you’re dating should not meet your kids until you are sure you found the right one. When you are ready to make that introduction to your kids, talk to them first and explain some of your partners good qualities. Such as playing or watching sports. Don’t expect for your child and partner to grow a relationship overnight. But give them time to get to know each other. And be always clear and let your child know that your new partner is not here trying to replace the other parent.

Male and Female Role Models-

If the child’s other parent isn’t involved in his or her life for other reasons having a male or female role model is always good to have. Find positive relationships with responsible people who might serve as a good role model for your child. Someone they can reach out to when they are going through things, someone they can talk to or ask for help when they are in need. Let your child know that it’s possible to have long termed positive relationships with members of the opposite sex.

I’m a full time working mother of four. Two boys and two girls, that ranges in ages from 12, 9, 7, and 5. My house can be a bit hectic. I follow a day to day routine, we always eat shower and do homework at the same time. I have set rules that they need to follow. I also set time aside for my kids each day even if it’s just to talk and ask them how their day went or what went on in school that day. It makes a difference.

Being a single parent can be a hassle and a bit challenging but it’s a rewarding experience show your child love and stay positive it will lessen stress and help you go far. It will be a big difference and help your child thrive.

12 Comments to “Managing a household as a single mom”

  1. Lindsay says:

    I congratulate you on running a tight household! When I first started reading your post, I thought you would need to run your house like a bootcamp – but with kindness and humour thrown in too. It is so true that a routine is the best thing for kids, since they know what to expect and what is expected from them too – it is familiar, and it’s family! Also so important is to have that time out for yourself, that must be hard to achieve when you’re also working full time, but as you say, if you’re not well then everything starts to fall over! Take care of yourself and all the best to you and kids – Thanks for your post! Cheers, Lindsay

    1. Kristina says:

      Thank you Lindsay, I should start running my home like a boot camp lol maybe my house will be clean at all times, lol. It is very important to have time out for yourself to take a breather, clear your head, just so you can be a better person for your them. Kids sense and pick up on everything . Thank you so much for your input !

  2. I think that making things simple for yourself is so much better than stressing yourself otherwise you can get burnt-out. I totally understand why you have to be more cautious when getting a new person or friend to look after your child. I did that a while back and the changes in my child were not the best, now I prefer to look after him or just get a qualified individual with the children’s check done. This were amazing tips.

    1. Kristina says:

      Thank you Michelle, making things simple and taking it day by day is the way I go just so I wont get burnt out. I also just watch my own kids if its not a grandparent, aunt or uncle. I’m that cautious.

  3. Jeff says:

    Thank you for writing the article Managing A Household As A Single Mom, you have provided awesome tips and as a single father who raised three boys, I do understand how it can be overwhelming. I know I put my personal life on hold to be mother and father to my sons, so I do recommend everyone read this article and learn from it if you are a single parent.

    Jeff

  4. Kristina says:

    Thank you Jeff, you are one strong father to raise three boys on your own, you should be proud. It can be overwhelming at times.

  5. Ney says:

    It’s amazing that you are managing a household all by yourself. I salute you! And you have offered great tips as well. Thank you!

  6. Kristina says:

    Thank you so much Ney, It never gets easier but its worth it !

  7. Md Millat says:

    Thanks for sharing with us such a beautiful article. We are becoming increasingly dependent on this technology and family ties are weakening. Parents and mothers have a lot of responsibility to manage our family well. For example, raising a child, providing them with proper education, providing income for the family, taking them occasionally, is the responsibility of the father as a parent. I learned how to be a good parent by reading this article that will help me a lot in my family life. 

  8. Linda says:

    Hello,

    It seems as though you have it under control and sharing your logic, love and caring is so enormously needed today and always. I too was a single parent and I didn’t have it as together as you. I worked 2 and 3 jobs at a time but my son and I had a great relationship, I made sure we spent quality time together on a regular basis and used love and consistent discipline as my motto to hopefully create a healthy environment.  Thank you for sharing and motivating others to read your words and take away and utilize the knowledge you provide.

    Thank You,

    Linda

  9. Srinivasan says:

    Your tips, on how to reduce stress while managing the children as a single parent, is a very practical approach and is very difficult one too. It needs a lot of self control and great love for the children. This will serve as a simple guide not only for single mothers but also for single fathers. Just wondering how you resolve conflicts which may arise among your children?

  10. fyre says:

    Although I’m not a single Mom I have so many precious and amazing single Moms in my life!  

    What you conveyed about being a single Mom and dating is priceless advice.  I saw a lot of single Moms within my own immediate family brining home everyone they dated and it used to make my blood boil!  In many of those situations there was no routine and, they’re children walked all over them.

    My single Mom friends these days are doing all the right things, honestly, I don’t even know how they do it all!   It blows my mind sometimes how well they take care of they’re kids, work full-time and always manage to be present and loving.  These same Moms also have expressed their deep guilt for the often absentee fathers.  

    I try to remind them gently like you do in this article, that they are not alone.  

    I’m glad all of them have strong female and male role-models in their children’s’ lives because I agree with you, it’s so important!

    Blessings on all of you Single Moms out there, take care of yourself! 

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